I finally finished reading "I Don't Know How She Does It" by Allison Pearson after not touching the book for more than half a year.

The book details how Kate Reddy manages her life as a successful fund manager and unsuccessful mother of two young kids. Essentially, what I got as the main message from the book is that women CAN'T manage a career and kids well at the same time... Kate is an absolutely bad mother due to her highly demanding job that requires almost 24/7 attention and frequent travel. Her idea of making it up to her kids is spending lots of money on them to substitute for her not being there. She gives in to all their demands and has to bribe and put up with a less than responsible nanny. And because she doesn't have time for her husband, she usually treats him roughly and taking him for granted, mostly just complaining how he has done his job of taking care of the house correctly, he finally has to leave her. So what to do? Give up her job? Or continue to live like that where she has no time even for herself and her kids will learn to consider the nanny as mother?

Not sure if her story applies to all women who have careers and family... but it's making me less naive about trying to do everything well. Apparently, effort(work) + effort(family) = constant and you have to balance it, the more time at work means less time with family and vice versa. Oh wells, I'll work hard at anything that is present at the moment and take things as it comes along. For now, that thing is more school.